I found this site from British blogger.. she is muslim too. She gave her opinion and understanding about Ramadan, for Malay .. you better believe Islam is universal and not belong solely for Malay. See her blog here or just read it below..
Ramadan : The Ultimate Sin-o-meter
Want to know for sure something is a sin?
I don’t mean missing Fajr prayer, or back-biting. These are clearly bad.
No, I mean the things you habitually do, that you kinda know might, perhaps, just maaaaybe wrong… but your mind somehow makes okay.
The litmus test: the month of Ramadan.
If you feel truly uneasy doing this deed in Ramadan, it’s most likely a sin.
If you have the self-control to give it up completely, masha’Allah, it’s 99.9999% likely a sin, or at the very least, a waste of your precious time.
So, really, let’s reflect on that for a moment. If the above is true, then we should ideally never resume committing those doubtful acts after Ramadan, right? I mean, what’s a sin in Ramadan, is still a sin on Eid day, and onwards still.
If gold, and diamonds, and oyster pearls are precious by their rarity alone, then it is clear that every moment we exist, every breath we inhale, then exhale after that, is pure gold dust, if only because they are all rarer than the rarest gemstones; never to be seen again, until the day that our deeds are played back to us on the ultimate cinematic, widescreen, surround sound, ultra high def experience of Yaum al-Qiyamah.
So what makes those acts that seem wasteful in Ramadan, suddenly become a good use of our time after the month has swiftly past through our fingers?
What validation do we put forth for our thinly veiled hypocrisy?
Weakness? Perhaps. We are made weak. But still. We have a month to train hard. To build up our spiritual muscles. Yes, you can get that emaan six-pack you always wanted – and in just THIRTY DAYS, insha’Allah!
So, take another look at that mental list you wrote; the one titled, “What I plan to give up during Ramadan”, and ask yourself: “If I can last 30 days without it… and with it, my Ramadan is tainted… is it really that important to me? And do I really want it back in my life ever again?”.
May Allah guide us to the true answer to those questions, and make it easy for us all to do the right thing. Especially me, now that I am extra accountable after writing this blog entry (eep). Ameen!
From Imam An-Nawawi’s Forty Hadith collection:
Al-Nawwas bin Sam’an, radiyallahu ‘anhu, reported that the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said: “Righteousness is good character, and sin is that which wavers in your heart and which you do not want people to know about.” [Muslim]
According to Wabisah bin Ma’bad, radiyallahu ‘anhu, who said: I came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, and he said: “You have come to ask about righteousness ?” ” Yes,” I answered. He said: “Consult your heart. Righteousness is that about which the soul feels tranquil and the heart feels tranquil, and sin is what creates restlessness in the soul and moves to and fro in the breast, even though people give you their opinion (in your favour) and continue to do so.” [A good hadith transmitted from the Musnads of the two Imams, Ahmad bin Hanbal and Al-Darimi]